Marriage
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we...
read moreHave-Do-Be vs. Be-Do-Have
Imagine you are at home cooking dinner and anticipating a wonderful evening ahead with your lover. He comes home with a frown on his face, and without a word walks to the fridge, rolls his eyes and bursts out: Where’s my beer?! I specifically asked you to buy a pack! You never do what I ask! Note: The situation could be reverse, where she comes home agitated. How you respond is going to be based on which operating mode you are in. Have-Do-Be Excuse me!? I’m not your slave! - You said you’d buy it and it is not here! -...
read moreOur society talks too much!
You talk about how to find and attract your ideal partner, your Soul Mate, how to improve your marriage, how to love and accept others – but you do very little. All that chatter makes you comfortable – you are not lazy, you are doing busy by trying. But trying does not improve your life in any way. On the contrary, it makes you feel worse; you feel disappointed and frustrated by not getting the results you want. Looking for a mate isn’t an easy ride. You find an attracting profile on-line; you email, chat, and talk on the phone. And,...
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